Ok I bought a digital multimeter this morning. I dont know how to use it but this is what I've done. I put the black cable to lcd pin 1 and red to 2-3. LCd contrast pot is at max.
Here are the voltages.
pin1: ground-black cable
pin2: 5.03v
pin3: 0 when contrast pot at max ; 5.03 when at min value.
http://www.hebeiltd.com.cn/lcm.datasheet/ATM1602B.doc this is the datashhet of the lcd that I use.
and a more detailed datasheet: http://64.233.183.104/search?q=cache:xg1yw2azT8UJ:www.hebeiltd.com.cn/lcm.datasheet/ATM1602B.pdf+atm1602b&hl=tr&ct=clnk&cd=1&gl=tr